Your Christmas Survival Guide
If you absolutely love Christmas then this guide is NOT for you.
Plenty of people do.
If that’s you then save yourself the 10 minutes it’ll take you to read this guide and check out this Christmas music on youtube instead.
Ok, so your feelings about Christmas are mixed at best…
I get that.
I’d still be reading too.
When I hear the first Christmas song of the year in my favourite Starbucks my heart doesn’t exactly jump for joy.
But then again, I’ve managed to figure out a couple of ways to get through Christmas without swelling up like Santa Claus, getting into an argument about politics or freaking out in the mile-long queue to get into the Lego shop.
In the spirit of festive cheer, I’m happy to share them with you.
#1 Family Pushing Your Buttons
“Christmas is about family”
Seems like Christmas has become about overeating, getting into debt to pay for a mountain of presents and spending days-on-end with people you only ever see at this time of year.
So it’s no surprise that a lot of people dread this time of year.
Maybe the family don’t agree with your lifestyle, hassle you about your partner or make remarks to drag you down to their level.
Or maybe you’re like me and you’re just ALLERGIC to Christmas!
I’m pretty sure that the medical industry will recognise this condition sooner or later… but in the meantime, I suppose that I’ll just have to survive Christmas like everyone else.
And I guess YOU do too.
So here’s the best piece of advice I can give you to help you get through this holiday season:
Don’t count down the days.
That’s what I’d always do… especially because I had to treck out into the wilds of Scotland to my mums wee cottage, several miles from the nearest town.
I’d go to bed every night and think to myself “Only another 7 days till I can get back to civilisation!”
But take it from me, those 7 days will be the longest week you can imagine if you spend the time marking off the minutes.
If you find yourself saying something like this then here’s what to do:
Politely but firmly remind yourself to live for the moment.
It’s a little piece of magic for many reasons (it’s the ‘polite but firm’ which makes the difference btw) so give it a try and see how much it improves your Christmas.
However, if want to deal with some family stuff before you get locked in with them then let’s have a chat on the phone:
This is the trap:
“I’ll just let-go over Christmas and start the diet on 1st January”.
Maybe you’ve even made it to the other side of the holidays AND started the diet once or twice…
But if you’re already thinking that you’d like to change your body shape and recover some of that elusive energy then perhaps stuffing yourself with mince pies and choccies for the next 3 weeks isn’t the best way to get there.
Just imagine how much harder it will be to make that diet stick in the new year when you’ve gained 10lbs and trained your brain to crave sugar.
When it comes to food, Christmas has been hijacked by the supermarkets and confectioners.
It is supposed to be about getting together with the ones you love and celebrating each other.
Not cramming your face with everything that you’ve been trying to resist all year “Just ‘coz it’s Christmas”.
Do the best thing for everyone this year – especially you.
Change how you eat now and insist that it remains changed through Christmas.
Otherwise, you will be in exactly the same position next year.
And if you need a hand to get your mindset sorted and your motivation pumped then let’s have a chat on the phone:
A lot of people visit Unchain Your Mind to control their drinking. We are one of the few clinics that specialise in helping people to cut down without quitting entirely.
That said, it is probably more difficult to cut down than to quit entirely.
It’s because when you stop completely you know that ALL alcohol is off-limits.
You KNOW when you’ve broken the rules.
But cutting down requires a different mindset… if you want to cut down your drinking this Christmas here’s what you need to do:
Set a very clear limit every time you drink.
Not 2 or 3 glasses.
Make it explicit:
Is the limit 2 glasses or is it 3 glasses.
Decide upfront and stick to it.
Don’t allow yourself to change from 2 glasses to 3 glasses halfway through the night.
If you change the limit during the night you are telling your unconscious mind that the limit doesn’t matter to you.
Of course, this does require willpower. That’s the nature of controlling behaviour (rather than eradicating it).
However, if you’d like a hand to be able to set and stick to your limit then we’d be happy to help.
There’s plenty we can do with hypnotherapy to help you beat that nagging voice in your head that’s saying “Just one more…”
It means less willpower is required.
Let’s have a chat on the phone:
Christmas is around the corner but are you lying awake at night worrying about how you’ll actually GET THERE?
Do you need to fly, drive or take the train across the country?
Are you already thinking about excuses you can make just to avoid facing the travel chaos?
Travelling anxiety and flying phobias are often fairly simple to overcome. However, unlike the rest of this guide, the only recommendation I can give you is to work with a therapist…
“Why no other advice?”
The truth is that travelling anxiety is crippling.
You can’t talk yourself out of it.
You can’t ignore it (because you still need to travel)
However, you CAN beat it, often in a single 2-hour session.
Don’t let travelling anxiety wreck your Christmas (and every holiday you ever take).
Let’s get it sorted.
Let’s have a chat on the phone:
#5 Buying Presents
Stress and anxiety – right?
What to get, where to find it, how to survive the Christmas crowds. There are a million reasons why Christmas shopping could be stressing you out.
Here’s what to bear in mind:
It’s not a competition (no matter how competitive it may get). What counts is being there for people in the moments when they need you.
Let’s look at the big picture: most Christmases go off relatively smoothly.
There may be the odd argument and disappointed look but you’re not a bad son/daughter/mum/dad just because you couldn’t find the perfect gift.
And if you just can’t face the crowds to go shopping then anyone who really loves you will care enough to understand that you don’t thrive under that kind of pressure.
You may have to jump on Amazon rather than elbowing your way through the crowds at Hamleys.
Don’t let that worry you…
BUT it’s also my responsibility to say that these are problems we can solve with hypnotherapy.
If you worry that you didn’t get the right present… is this really a worry that’s there all year in another guise?
If you freak out at the thought of Christmas crowds, does your heart sink when the train arrives packed to the gills?
Christmas may be setting you off but it’s worth beating these problems so you can be free to live up to your full potential all year round.
Let’s have a chat on the phone.